Friendship Mystery

This past weekend my girlfriend got married.  The funny thing about it, I really don’t know her that well.  I was kind of surprised she invited me to her wedding.  We met back in August when I was looking for an apartment and became friends on line. We connected and began e-mailing back and forth a lot. We didn’t actually meet in person till October.   I was shocked that there weren’t more people helping prep for her wedding or helping out the day of her wedding.  Especially since so many people RSVP(ed) to her wedding and I know those people must know her better and be better friends with her then I am. Since we only met in person twice I don’t really know her friends or family so it was a nice opportunity to get to know those that love her so much better.  She has a really great family and friends.  I had a wonderful time working with them.

The thing that I don’t get was why weren’t there more people helping out. I know that there was a big single’s ball the night we were setting up, but I doubt all of her friends went to that or why didn’t a few skip it to help out.   I know we’re single and all, but from my experience I’ve never met a guy at a church dance before and hit it off so much that I gave him my number and we went out. Church dances seem to be so loud that it’s really tough to talk and get to know someone; the same goes with clubs and concerts.  But, maybe that’s me. I’m just not one to loosely give out my number. Actually to get my number you have to literally drag it out of me.  So if you refer back to “the look” post, I tend to give some people “the look” when they ask for my number.  I probably give them the look when they request for me to add them on facebook or when they ask for my last name. I am just a very cautious person.  In order for you to get any of my info my friends must know you and be able to vouch for you being a good guy.  If I can’t get a reference on you then sorry buddy, until we get to know each other better then it’s a no go.  If you really want to get to know me you’re going to have to track me down and hopefully you will be able to win over the trust of my friends and then maybe I will consider giving you the time of day.  That is just me, maybe other girls got the memo that their night in shining armor was going to show up to this event and so if they were going to meet him they’d better show up.

So, when she told me that she needed help prepping for her wedding the same day as the ball I had no problem not going to the ball and helping prep.  To sweeten the deal it didn’t hurt that I had a date in the afternoon prior to helping out.  So there was no love loss for me.

Even on the day of the wedding I was surprised more people didn’t show up in the morning to help. I have to admit I was an hour late to help out, but I was there and recruited others who were standing around to help. I have to say I am so glad I was there. It was so fun. There were three of us in the kitchen who played off each other so well that it was nonstop laughter. We laughed so much I think I even shed a tear or two.  Having a good day and making an event worth my time has a lot to do with how much we laughed.