Being Friendly is a Crime

I though it was good to meet new people and be friendly.  Apparently in the single scene it's a crime and I'm been charged again.  I thought being single would be fun and consists of less drama then married life, but I was wrong.  You make one illegal move and you are on the front cover of the news.  I guess I've been out of the single's scene too long, but I don't recall an issue with poaching when I was in a singles's church group back in the day.  When I was single back then, people came and went like crazy. Every singles group had a continually flux of people, no one ever stayed that long and I don't remember the girls being so territorial. Wait I am a girl. I don't recall ever being territorial.

Here's what's been going down. I joined this singles church group and at first it was all fun and games. They have lots of activities and I was lovin life. Things were really looking good for me. I was making friends, having fun, laughing and life was grand.  Or so I thought. Well, I was living the life.  Then everyone wanted in on the action. I mean really!  Get your own life, you can't have mine and please stop interfering with my wonderful life.  If I'm going to have a relationships with someone I want it a two way thing, I'm not into Menage a trois.  The more the merrier isn't true.  When you have more then two you end up with he said she said and it's just not all that.  With just two people you can just ask the other person what they really think and get a straight answer and life is so much easier and you get away from assuming which makes you into an ass.

Here's the deal. I'm friendly. I like chatting it up.  So I go to one event and chat it up with one guy and then everyone thinks I'm dating him. Then I go to another event and chat it up with another guy and then they all think I'm dating him. I mean really. I haven't dated a single guy in the group.  I've hung out with some, done stuff together as friends but, no dating.  Can't two people just have a conversation in public.  I see now why no one dates in this singles group, it's illegal to talk to someone of the opposite sex.  

Just in case I was too vague for you and you can't picture the irony of it all, let me paint the scene. Saturday afternoon I go to a church event. I didn't really want to because I was exhausted, but my girlfriend and I know we both need to be more social so we committed each other to go. When we got there I could of sat on my butt the whole time, but decided if I didn't move around I would fall asleep. There was a group playing Frisbee so I joined in. It helped that I was a pretty girl and they were all guys that they put up playing with me, I'm really bad.  We take a break, I hang out with my girlfriend, lunch is served. I figure I came all this way I'd better get out of my comfort zone and be social.  Plus I'm new, I eyed some new people so I thought since people were nice to me when I first joined the group, I'd pay it forward and be nice to the even newer people then myself.  Since everyone was just standing around chatting it up and I'm a chatter but, I'm more into doing  so I suggested we play Frisbee. After a few hours of playing I'm getting better.  Then the big group started in on games.  If it were back in the day the games would of looked fun, but there are just too many ill feelings that I didn't desire getting that up close and personal with some of the other game players. Plus I'm just not a touchy feely person and the games had a little too much body contact for my comfort zone. In addition I was having a good time chatting it up with the new people. Picnic ended, all was good.

A few hours later we meet up with some of the same people and a guy asks me "What's up with you and the guy at the picnic." My reply, "I was talking to him, like I'm talking to you now." End of conversation. I really thought it stopped there. But, "No." The next day the guy asked a couple of other guys the same thing about me and the guy.  I mean really. If he wants to know if I've got a boyfriend or wants to go out on a date with me he should just ask me and I would have been totally upfront and honest with him. (So for the record, for all of those of you who are wondering I do not have a boyfriend.) It's not like we were holding hands, standing close, hugging, kissing, or sitting next to each other. We didn't have any physical contact. We were just talking a few feet away from each other as we were playing Frisbee. 

And to you Mr. Nosey, you will never make it as a friend on facebook, but for those of you that are. When I am in a relationship and I want everyone to know about it I will change may facebook status. Till then I prefer to keep the intimate details of various aspects my life, especially dating or relationships with the opposite sex classified.  I know I have this blog and it looks like my life is an open book but it's not. I do have a "private life" and would appreciate if you would all assist me in keeping private things private.