Chocolate House

“I don’t want to be settled for.” I don’t know why this keeps coming up in conversations, but my single male friends seem to be fixated on this. To me it never crossed my mind that some guy would ever settle for me. I have so much to offer. Aside from my amazing good looks what could he possibly be giving up to be with me? I for one am not planning on settling.  So, if any of you guys get with me, let me tell you I didn’t settle for you. If I was one to settle I wouldn’t be single. I walked out of my marriage because I refused to settle. In church we are taught to endure to then end, but I was informed by my bishop said I was way too young to “endure to the end” aka settling.  Before my divorce papers were even cold I received three marriage proposals. As you can see I am still single. Therefore you should all rest assured that I am not settling.  If we ever go out you should feel flattered. I am not one who is lacking for dates.  I make a very conscious choice who I spend my time with and who I let in to my life. I have many more acquaintances then friends as most of us do.  We all meet people at work, school, church, or other social functions. Some people are desperate for friends and will do anything to be accepted.  I yearn to make lifelong friends but, there are some things I will not settle for or sacrifice to be surrounded by people. Top on my list is I don’t associate with people who gossip, talk behind other’s back and stab people in the back. I am all about spending time with genuine people who say it how it is. Bluntness can be a curse, but it can also be a blessing. If you associate with blunt people you can rest assured that they are not going to beat around the bush and aren’t going to stab you the back because you know if they have something to say they are very comfortable saying it to your face.  I also like genuine people, people who are open and honest and don’t try to always put on a happy face. I love people who will disagree with me and put me in my place. We all like being right, that is just human nature, but I am always up for a good discussion and am willing to change my way of thinking or thought process.

I’m not looking for that house made out of chocolate.  I’ve been married before so I am well aware that compromises need to be made.  I’m not looking for perfect, but he’s going to be totally perfect for me.  He is also going to be totally drop dead gorgeous.  I’ve already married the guy for his insides and that just didn’t work out. When his insides weren’t that great I didn’t even get the joys of appreciating his outsides. So that just doesn’t work. The funny thing is my girlfriend and I talk about this all the time. She is totally in love with this guy and finds him totally hot and I look at him and think he’s kind of dorky. Then I tell her who I think is totally hot and she say’s he’s ok, better then so and so but not all that. Well, it’s a good thing we don’t think the same guys are totally hot.  The same with a guy’s personality. I really liked this guy and when my girlfriend first met him she thought he was the most annoying guy ever.  I mean he totally turned her off, made her uncomfortable and she really couldn’t stand him. Being the great friend she is she endured his presence for my sake and he finally grew on her. She now sees why I like him, but at the same time she doesn’t like him. Which is good for me, since sometimes you talk a person up so much that your friend starts to like then and then that’s not good.  So, I have to say I have the best girlfriend ever. She likes the guys I like but doesn’t like them the way I like them. That is totally the way it should be. So, yea for finding the perfect friend.

I don’t expect to live in a house made out of chocolate, but I wouldn’t mind him being covered in chocolate, because I am a big fan of milk chocolate.  I am very realistic to what I seek, just talk to me you will realize that my feet are firmly planted in the ground. I am well aware life will not be a fairytale, but it will be my fairy tale. It will probably have lots of bumps along the way, but that’s how I like it. Everything happens for a reason and it is during those difficult times that we all come together and grow stronger and closer.

I see no problem with wanting to be swept off my feet by prince charming. Don’t we all want to be totally head over heels in love with our spouse, for them to be our best friend and to have an amazing spiritual connection with them?  I have so much to offer and thus I deserve to have my cake and eat it too.

As someone put it this weekend men are looking for the perfect wife and the whore in bed. I am looking for my prince charming. So if you are prince charming then I am the perfect wife and the whore in bed.