It was my choice to walk away from my marriage and my house. With that being said it wasn’t an easy choice. It’s not like you can just say good-bye and the next day it’s over. There is a whole legal process that needs to take place for two people to unbind two lives that were intertwined for so long. The divorce was final a few months back, but I’ve been waiting on the house. I signed over the house to him today, well sort of. I signed the paperwork to remove my name from the loan, but it still needs to be processed, approved, and then I need to get my name off the deed. I’ve been anxiously waiting for this day. Patience isn’t my highest virtue and there has been a lot of anxiety on my part with not living in the house and still having it in my name. I try to just breathe deeply and have faith that he’s not going to pull all the money out of the house and or do something else dumb so he can’t refinance it on his own and I’m stuck being tied to him till the market gets better and we’re able to sell it. All of these horrific scenarios have gone though my mind and have driven me crazy for the last year and a half.
As much as I didn’t want the house, I do feel a bit of loss in this whole process. This was a brand new house that we had built. We designed it and watched it being built from foundation on up. Then when we moved in I did all the landscaping and interior design. At the same time I have a love hate relationship with the house and overall I was happy to sign it over to him.
So, with that said. It’s still not over. I’m just crossing my fingers that he didn’t do anything that would prevent him from taking over the loan and it will be a quick process. Not knowing is not easy. I just want it all done and over with now.
I can sympathize with this some what. My ex pushed and pushed for us to buy her mother's home. I told her that I didn't want to buy it because I wanted to go somewhere else and buy our own home and have our own lives together, because we had lived in her parent's house for most of our marriage and it was a very negative situation for us, and it ultimately contributed to the demise of our marriage. But she could never bring herself to live on her own without mommy and daddy. So I gave in for her, and I sunk $40,000 into new furnishings and improvements on the place. Money that I had received from an accident settlement. When we were about to sign the papers, she divorced me and ran off with the contractor I had hired to do the work. In the end it was the best thing that ever happened to me: I have my life back.
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