Soul Mates

Do you ever wonder why you cross paths with certain people?  I’ve never given much thought to it till I cross paths with this person back in 1996 and it changed my life forever. From the day we connected on a spiritual level we both wondered why our lives crossed.  We know it wasn’t just a chance encounter, a lot of mountains had to been moved for us to actually meet and establish the relationship we had. Then as quickly as our lives came together and became entertained we parted ways and lost contact. Then 13 years later we crossed paths again and my life was once again turned upside down, in a good way. Things I had forgotten came back to remembrance and my life was put back on track and then as quickly as this person entered my life they departed.  I know that our encounters were all constructed by God as I know he has a plan for us and puts people in our lives for a reason. Knowing this I’ve always wondered why we crossed paths. Then while In Bali I was reading Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert and came across this passage and my question was answered. 

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. 

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. 

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...” 

So, unless I need another smack to awake me I doubt I’ll ever cross paths with this person again. With this new understanding of why they entered my life. I guess I can feel more at peace with losing them again.  People like this just aren’t meant to be there forever.  That’s a tough concept for me and I may cry a little at times to morn that loss, but now I understand it better and feel more at peace and I can be thankful for all they taught me during our short encounters.  And if I do need another smack awake I also know that I don’t really need them physically in my life to give me the wake up call. All I need to do is drag out my journals and reread the entries surrounding our first encounter and that will awaken in me a remembrance of everything I want, need and desire in life. And then it’s up to me to get my life back on track.