Sherlock Holmes and Dr Watson were going camping. They pitched their tent under the stars and went to sleep. Sometime in the middle of the night Holmes woke Watson up and said: "Watson, look up at the stars, and tell me what you see." Watson replied: "I see millions and millions of stars." Holmes said: "And what do you deduce from that?" Watson replied: "Well, if there are millions of stars, and if even a few of those have planets, it’s quite likely there are some planets like Earth out there. And if there are a few planets like Earth out there, there might also be life." And Holmes said: "Watson, you idiot, it means that somebody stole our tent."
You may laugh of this and think this would never happen, but it does all the time. The thing is my roommate has ADD and by the end of the day his meds are about all worn off and if I’m not careful he’ll go off on these tangents. It also probably doesn’t help that he got his undergrad degree was in philosophy.
So here we are again last night sitting on the couch winding down, the lights are off and the room is being illuminated by candlelight. It’s very peaceful. I make an off hand comment and then all of a sudden it’s like a switch goes on and he goes off. When I first moved in he told me that if I need his attention to say his name and get him to look at me and I will have his undivided his attention, not forever but, for a moment. In the beginning I would let him go off and finish his thought, but I’m beginning to realize that it’s not very healthy for him to go off and it doesn’t make him any happier to finish his though and sometimes he just ends up upsetting himself. So, I’m getting better at cutting him off sooner and he seems much happier. I have to say this is a real learning curve for both of us. It’s not always easy to be the one who makes the judgment call to say you are not going in a productive direction. It also got me thinking that as much as I am learning this about him he has also been learning the same thing about me. He has also been learning that sometimes it’s necessary to stop me from what I’m doing, get me to stand still so he can just hold me so I will also calm down.
The thing is it’s probably not what I said per say, but how I said it. Now, I’m curious to see how I can reword things to not set him off on tangents. This will be a work in progress. Good thing time is on our side. I also can’t wait till he tries the other ADD medication (it is 3x time price, but if it gives us 3 more hours together at night it will be well worth the additional expense.)
Divorce Update: Call me psychic, I totally called it. Yesterday the rest of the divorce paperwork arrived in the mail. So, today I made yet, another trip down to the courthouse. When I arrived I got a number, thankfully there was virtually no line to get a number. Then I called Veronica Courtney and let her know that all of the paperwork got returned, with a note saying they are missing the form they returned to me. She said when I got to the window and explain it and if they had any questions they would find her. And that is exactly what I did. With in 15 min my number was called. I told them my story, gave them the cover letter and all the paperwork, including the one they stamped incorrectly, (By the way the women at the window said she wasn't surprised as they have to do a lot of post date stamping and even herself has made the mistake of date stamping the wrong date on stuff). The person at the window then took all my stuff to Veronica Courtney and then came back and said they will make the correction and send it upstairs to the judge and as far as she knows there isn't anything else I need to do. Hopefully this will be my last trip to the courthouse.
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