Gossiping may be the biggest problem among singles groups. But I’ve recently discovered that the unspoken can cause just as many problems. Here are two examples of how not saying anything can cause problems.
A. The shy person who doesn’t talk. I was surprised at how a shy person could possibly offend someone. I always thought the offenders were the ones that put their foot in their mouth, but apparently not saying something can be just as offensive to some people. Apparently if you are a shy guy who doesn’t talk to and/or ask girls out you may be thought of as being stuck up. Really?! It’s hard to believe shyness is a crime. Maybe you girls that are thinking this need to come back to earth and be a little nicer and sweeter and make the first move. Instead of thinking about yourself, maybe you should talk a walk in his shoes. For some guys coming to a singles event is a real challenge, especially if he is new in the church. He isn’t used to being surrounded by beautiful women. He’s got a lot of pressure on him.
And it’s not just the girls that are getting offended by the shy guy it’s other guys. I don’t see how this is possible, but it is. Apparently when the outgoing guy walks up to the shy guy the outgoing guy expects the shy guy to welcome him with open arms. When the shy guy stands there dumbfounded it’s not that he’s stuck up, or that he doesn’t want to be your best friend, the problem is he’s shy. There is a good possibility you caught him off guard and it’s no different if you are a guy or a girl he is just lost for words.
B. The look. Apparently many people are offended or think someone doesn’t like them because they give them “the look” I’m not sure what “The look” is, but I overheard some people the other day saying “I thought she hated me because she gave me the look.” Last week I was talking to a guy and he said he didn’t like another guy because he gave him the look. Really! We all need to stop assuming. How do you know that look was even intended for you? I’m pretty sure the two of you weren’t alone in a room together and person A gave person B a look. Because if that happened, I’d hope that person B would ask person A what that was for. My guess Person A wasn’t even looking at person B and or Person A was unaware of the look they were giving person B.
Yesterday I found out I’ve got lots of looks. According to my girlfriend she has witnessed me giving guys the look of death, the I hate you look, and the I’m annoyed. I honestly can’t recall consciously making any of those looks. Apparently I have way too many facial expressions for my own good. So I am apologizing now if I may have offended you with giving you the look. My face seems to have a mind of it’s own.
Everyone please stop assuming, because you are making an ass out of yourself. Let’s all stop being so petty and play nice.
Oh, I gave someone "the look" yesterday, and he for damn sure knows it was meant for him.
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