Day 6-Favorite Superhero and Why

I'm not much of a cartoon fan or super hero fan.  So this is a hard one to choose. I looked up Superhero on Wikipedia and they defined A superhero is a type of stock character possessing "extraordinary or superhuman powers" and dedicated to protecting the public.


After great thought I came up with Elastigirl from the movie The Incredibles. I liked the movie and her character. In addition think she's really hot. I wanted to be her for halloween, but decided I couldn't pull off the costume. 

Day 5-A picture of somewhere you've been

For Father's Day 2010 I took my dad to the Monterey Bay Aquarium.
This was my first time there. We stayed the night in Monterey and took the 17 mile drive.
These pictures were taken on the drive.

Day 4-A habit that you wish you didn't have

The first habit that popped into my head is sarcasm. I've been trying to kick it for years, but am failing miserably. I haven't given up. I'm still working on it. I'm a work in progress.

Day 3-A picture of you and your New friends

ARB Friends

New Mid-Single Friends

My 1st Friend in the Mid-Singles Group.

Reno Friends

There are two posts for friends, so I though I'd divide it up. 

This post includes friends that I have made since I became single.

If you don't see yourself pictured it is not because I don't value your friendship it's because I don't have a picture of us on my laptop.

Please know that I still love you and value your friendship.

Day 2-The meaning behind your Blog name

Life is like the game telephone, depending on who tells the story it will be skewed one way or the other. Thus this blog is all about life from my perspective. The characters in my blog may or may not tell the story as I see it, but that is ok. If they saw things play out differently they are more then welcome to have their own blog and tell their own story. This blog is all about me and my life. So if it offends you then you have the right to not read it. On the other hand if you find it helpful and inspiring feel free to pass it along as I'd love to touch as many people as possible. I may not have all the answers to life, but I know I am not alone in my experiences, thought and feelings. I have also come to know that I can't do it all on my own. I depend on my friends and family's support.  Many of my friends and family live far away so it is up to me to keep then abreast of what is going on in my life. In the past I have kept things bottled up inside. Now I am slowly sharing with others via my blog and am overwhelmed by all the love and support I have gotten from friends and family. I had no idea that so many people could relate to me or cared about me. Thank you. I know it is up to me to keep you in my life as no one can read minds. I am sorry for shutting so many of you out in the past and I hope never to do that again. I can't make any promises, but I will do my best. Thanks again.

P.S. I know that the web address for my blog is spelled wrong. When I first choose the name I didn't realize this as it was a type-o. When I did realize it I tried to get the get the correct spelling, but the name was already taken. By then I had become attached to the name so I kept it misspelling and all.  So, just be aware if you go to lifeaccordingtome you will get to someone else's blog.

30 Day Challenge!

My girlfriend is doing this and it looked like fun so I thought I'd play along.


Each day of the month, write a blog post according to these guidelines below:

Day 1-Recent picture of you and 15 interesting facts about yourself
Day 2-The meaning behind your Blog name
Day 3-A picture of you and your New friends
Day 4-A habit that you wish you didn't have
Day 5-A picture of somewhere you've been
Day 6-Favorite super hero and why
Day 7-A picture of someone that has the biggest impact on you
Day 8-Goals/things to accomplish in the next 30 days or less
Day 9-Something you're proud of in the past few days
Day 10-Songs you listen to when you're bored, happy, sad, mad, hyped
Day 11-A picture of you and friends you have had over 10 years
Day 12-How you found out about blogger and why you have one
Day 13-A letter to someone who has hurt you recently
Day 14-A picture of you and your family
Day 15-Put your ipod or shuffle on-first 10 songs that play
Day 16-Another picture of yourself
Day 17-Someone you would want to switch lives with for one day and why
Day 18-Plans/dreams/goals you have
Day 19-Nicknames you have and why you have them
Day 20-Someone you see yourself marrying or being with in the future
Day 21-A picture of something that makes you happy
Day 22-What makes you different from everyone else
Day 23-Something you crave for a lot
Day 24-A letter to your parents
Day 25-What I would find in your bag
Day 26-What do you think about your friends
Day 27-Why you are doing this 30 day challenge
Day 28-A picture of you from last year and now-how have you changed?
Day 29-In this past month, what have you learned?
Day 30-Your favorite song

Day 1-Recent picture of you and 15 interesting facts about yourself

1.  I'm trying to jump out of my comfort zone this year and try new things. So, far all of my firsts ahve been lots of fun.  I played laser tag, went go-cart racing, and sledded down a giant hill all for the first time. Above is a picture of me playing laser tag for the second time. I loved it so we played two days in a row.

2. I don't like roller coasters, but I plan on going sky diving this summer

3. I don't like chick flicks or any movies that make you sad. I like action, adventure, and detective shows.

4. I'm such a girl when it comes craft. I love crafts, sewing, quilting, and all that fun girly stuff.

5. I'm not afraid to get dirty and fix things around the house. I have installed a drip system, ceiling fans, and landscaped my yard many times. 

6. I have a Bachelors Degree and spent most of my time in Corporate America as an Office Manager and Human Resources Assistant. I used to work in SF and had a beautiful office with a huge picture window that over looked Market Street.

7. I love working out in the gym. I used to be into body building. When I'm in my 50's I want to compete in Body Building.

8. I have been on over 10 cruises.

9. I want to be a famous author.

10. I have awesome friends. Most of them live far far away, but they are there when I need them and are a huge strength and support in my life.

11. I have a very hard time opening up and making friends and I wish I had more local girlfriends that I  can do things with.

12. I am a very sensible logical person. On the other hand my logic is probably not your logic. 

13. I like to be prepared to so I can be spontaneous with out any negative fall out. You will either love me for it or hate me for it. I am a ton of fun and life is never dull if you hang around me.

14. I am beyond frugal in some areas so I can splurge in others.

15. I am a dreamer and a realist. 

Not quite measuring up.

My boss is 77 and is his health is rapidly deteriorating. He stopped driving last August. His memory is going and he has a hard time articulating what he wants. I try to be understanding as I know he is very frustrated with himself. What makes it so bad is he expects me to understands what he wants and to read his mind.  Unless I can do that there is no way I’m getting a raise.  As much as I hate discussing pay I have brought it up several times. At first he agreed to give me a raise then changed his mind and said before I do so I need to be more like Rita. I need to be able to read his mind like Rita did. Rita was his secretary when he had his construction business around 20 years ago. There is just no way I can compete with his memory of her.  Was she that great? I’ll never know, but what matters is he thought she was that great. It doesn’t matter that the business is different or he is different now he expects me to be her and I can’t. It is times like this that I wonder why I keep my job. I keep my job because I know that finding a new job will be difficult. For now I have a sort of steady income and I am able to sort of support my self. If I find another job who knows how long it will last. I don’t want to regret giving up a good job and living with regret.   With my life being as chaotic and stressful as it has been lately I really don’t want to create any undue stress. I look at my mom who has the same if not more qualifications then I have and she’s been in and out of jobs since 2008. Soon as she finds one and gets settled in it seems like she gets let go.  There is no way I could survive with out a steady income for that long.  I also refuse to move back home with Mom and Dad.

I had this great idea in 2009 that I was going to write this book and sell it and live off of the proceeds, but that hasn’t happened. The book still has a long way to go. I keep putting it off along with joining a gym.

I just read a blog by one of my fellow bloggers and came across this post Click here to read it. This kind of sums up why I keep my job. It's all because Money Does Matter. I know money does not buy happiness, but it does as my fellow blogger put it provides for a full tummy and warm and dry place to lay your head at night.  My career isn't turing out like I planned, but at least I don't have to worry about being hungry or homeless. In addition my job does provide me with flexibility, which has it's pros and cons.  The pro was I was able to leave last week at a moments notice to see my dad while he was in the hospital and was able to spend a week at my parents house with out any worry that I'd loose my job.

So here I am working in a dead in job and never quite living up to my boss’s expectations. When I do something well I get great praise and feel like a success and then there are times like these that I feel like a complete failure.

Will Marriage = Loneliness

I never imagined being single would be so much fun.  By my becoming a facebook user and adding just the right people my social life has really blossomed. I went from being married and unable to find friends to being single and having people inviting me to different events all the time. I’m loving it. The only problem with this is I’m afraid that if I get married I’ll go back to a life of isolation.  When we got married we moved and I left the few friends I had behind.  Even if we stayed things wouldn’t have been much different. The few friends I had moved or they were at different points in their life, getting married, having kids, etc that they no longer had time for me.  

When we moved I tried making friends at work, but that didn’t go well. As hard as I tried I just wasn’t able to connect with anyone there. Then I tried making friends at church, but it seemed everyone was too busy working, taking care of their kids, or just not interested. The couples that didn’t have kids already had a core group of friends and weren’t looking to make new friends or they were both working so much that when they finally got off work they were just happy to spend time alone together.  

The truth is even now I don’t have a lot of real close friends that are local that I do stuff with. I’m slow to let people into my life as I don’t want to be part of gossip and the drama that goes on in tight knit groups, thus I tend to keep people at arm’s length.  In turn I end up with a lot of acquaintances and not many “friends.” Most of the invites to do stuff are generic face book event posts for the Singles or Mid-singles groups I’m a part of.  Which is fine by me as there are plenty of them and they are lots of fun.  In addition I’m not much of a planner or initiator so I don’t get groups together. 

My concern is when I get married I won’t be allowed to come to these events and then what will I do? Hanging out with your best friend is fun, but I need more then that. How will we find other couples to do things with? Will I be able to find local girlfriends that want to get together with me, who have time and are willing to make the time for me?