Happy Roommate = Happy Life

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I have a feeling this roommate situation just might work out.  We’ve worked in the kitchen a few times and so far we haven’t driven each other crazy.  It’s only been 6 days, so time will tell.  One thing I loved about living with Josh is we’d cook meals together.  Which is impressive in it’s self, but what made it even more special is I’m on this special diet due to all of my newly learned food allergies and he’d go out of his way to cook things that I could eat.  I was really concerned about moving in with someone else as I found it really nice not have to cook every meal.  The truth is by the time I moved in with Josh I was totally burnt out. I didn’t do anything except sleep and go to work. He totally took care of me for the past few months. He did all the cooking and most of the shopping and my only contribution was doing the dishes and laundry and helping out with some unexpected bills. So, it was a difficult decision to move out as he was taking so good care of me.

(Over the past 4 months I’ve slowly recovered and am feeling much better about myself and life and finally feel able to take care of myself now.  The nutritionist has really helped too. After I went this last time she changed and added some other supplements and I feel 100% better.  I’m amazed what supplements can do to help improve one’s view of life. Things are finally falling into place.)

Making the decision to have a roommate verses living on my own was difficult.  If I lived on my own I would able to take my little girl with me, but I was concerned having to care for her would be too much for me. Also if I moved out on my own it would be expensive and I would be barley making it financially and wouldn’t be able to go on all the trips I wanted to this next year. I did like the idea of living on my own so I wouldn’t have to possibly come home to an angry roommate. I just couldn’t deal living with someone who was always angry or grouchy all the time. Also living with Josh I realized how nice it was having a roommate who was social.  I never needed to go out to be social as there were always people over the house. I loved it because when I was single I’d go out the minimum every Monday, Friday and Saturday night and now that I’m technically still married I’m banned from the singles activities so my social circle has plummeted.  So, having a roommate would help me from becoming a hermit.  I was concerned about having a roommate as I haven’t had one since back in 1999 when I was in college. It’s quite of an adjustment going from married for so long and running a house to living in someone else’s home.  I’m so used to leaving the door open when I’m in the bathroom and going in and getting things from every room of the house and putting things away in every room of the house that it’s an adjustment.

I also doubted that I would find someone who would want to make meals together and spend the energy to work with me on my special diet.   When I was scouting for potential roommates I jumped on this one after hearing about his eating habits and how him and his old roommate used to cook together. He’s is really supportive in my diet. He looks as it as he has an invested interest in what eat as it will affect my moods, so anything to keep me from going crazy on him, he totally supports. I have to give him props for looking at the big picture.

I know I will put my mouth in my foot probably many more times, but I hope he will continue to be patient with me as I learn the roommate etiquette.  I’ll keep you posted on my many more embarrassing mishaps. Maybe the next one won’t be so embarrassing that I’ll be able to share and we’ll all be able to laugh about it.

And if you are wondering why I don't have a female roommate there are several reason behind that. While in the YSA program through my church I had a horrible experience with the girls. One girl even proceeded to black list me from the group. She was one of the popular girls who I had become friends with upon entering the group. All was well until a boy got involved and it went all downhill from there. She worked her magic and had me shunned from the group.  I'm not saying all girls are like that but, I don't want a repeat of that. Some guys were also involved in that so I will be avoiding that group. I don't need to put myself around people that bring me down. I did make a few friends while there and I will continue to be friends with them outside the group setting. Then I proceeded to the Mid-singles group and heard a little too much gossip from girls and a few guys and decided it would be best to not room with possible catty, gossipy, backbiting, girls. Thus I voted for a male roommate in hopes of avoiding unneeded stress and drama in my life. For now I can't deal with tension and being judged by others.  I know I have made mistakes in my life, but I don't need someone wagging their finger at me and knocking me down so they feel better about themselves. I admit I'm not perfect, but that doesn't mean I sit around and kick my self for all the mistakes I have made. I look at them as learning experiences. And I have to day in my short life I've had lots of them and I wouldn't trade them in, well, most of them I wouldn't trade in. They have made me who I am today and have led me to where I am today. I know God has a plan for me and is leading me to something amazing.  And apparently he feels I needed these experiences now and in my past to get me to where he wants me.