Here I am in a brand new marriage and I refuse to make the same mistakes I made in my last marriage. Yes, you heard it correctly I screwed up in my last marriage. No, it wasn’t all my fault that the marriage failed, but I did play a part and not afraid to admit that I screwed up. Thus said I am doing my best not to repeat those mistakes. The only problem is as hard as I try to change and be a better person I have this giant cement anchor holding me down. As hard as I try to get away it keeps pulling me down.
What is this anchor, it’s my currant husband. He keeps begging me to be the person I was for my ex. Do the same things I did for my ex for him. He just doesn’t get it. If I do those things this marriage will also fail. And I don’t want that. I want this marriage to succeed. I keep trying to explain this to him, but he doesn’t get it. He is bound and determined to keep me in the chains of failure.
You guys would be smart to get a good counselor- now- while you're setting the boundaries for this new marriage. It could be a great help in deciding what things need to change- and who needs to change them. We're rooting for you! You're a terrific person, and we want your happiness very much!
ReplyDeleteAlso remember no one controls you. Only you give people permission to pull you down. You are a strong, amazing woman and deserve to be happy. Continue getting the help and support you need!
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