Commitment Issues, No More!

Back in July I wrote a blog post entitled Commitment Issues. Click here to read. After talking to a friend the other day I realized that I described my commitment issues all-wrong. I really have no problem committing. As you know I’ve been married twice so I have no problem committing to marriage. I own a house so I have no problem committing to where I am going to live for the next 30+ years. I also have no problem committing to making large purchases with money I have saved up my whole life.  I have also divorced both my husbands so I had no problem committing to the possibility of dying single. I also have no problem committing to a life with out abuse.  I have almost a year’s worth of food storage so for the past year I had no problem committing to spending all my paychecks on food storage.  I have also kept my life insurance policy in preparation for having a family, so I am committing to have a family some day. I also have many long-term investments so I have no problems committing to saving for my future and my retirement.  I do have a job so I have no problem committing to showing up to work. I have a college degree so I had no problem committing to a major and going to class, studying and taking tests. I have no children so you figure out what I had no problem committing to.  I am healthy so I have no problem to committing to cooking and maintaining a healthy lifestyle and exercising. I pay my credit cards off each month so I have committed to living with in my means. 

So my issue with commitment isn’t that I can’t commit. It’s more like I commit to easily. I get swept up in the moment way too easily.  My friend said I’m such a girl in this way. He said girls are just like that.

Now that I’ve thought about it I agree with my friend who said you shouldn’t ask a person on a second date while they are on a first date. They really need time to think about it before making a decision.

This was me on my apartment hunt. I would find a place and say I would take it, then on my way home I would give it some thought and realized that I had made a really bad decisions and I had to call them back and tell them I changed my mind. It was so embarrassing.  But, I’m glad I called them back and said no. The embarrassment was worth not being put in a bad situation.

Now that I have redefined my commitment issues I am working on making them issues no more. I’m doing my best to think things out before I give an answer/responses. I’m trying to avoid situations where I may be swept away and trying to keep my feet planted solid on the ground.