Enjoy every stage of life

Yes, I am single and proud of it. I am very blessed to not get sympathy stares from my family or friends. I don’t have a mother that nags me to give her a grandchild.  I went to the dentist the other day and when I told her I had left my husband she was so proud of me. She said she doesn’t know if she could do it. I was really surprised. The reason it took me so long to leave my ex was I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to afford to live on my own.  If I were a dentist with my own thriving practice I would have left a long time ago. It was interesting to hear her say she wasn’t sure she would have been brave enough to leave.

I’ve been to a many Singles Church events and surprised at how miserable some of these women and some men are that are single.  Some women really believe that their happiness hinges on having a ring on their finger. I’m sorry to break it to you but, marriage won’t bring you happiness.  Happiness comes from within. It has nothing to do with your marital status. Happy people come in all types: Married, widowed, divorced, and single. 

So, please don’t feel sorry for me. I choose to be single.  It was 110% my choice. If I wanted to be married I would be, but at this time I choose to be totally and utterly single. I’m not saying I’m always going to be single, but being single at this time was a very thought out decision for me.  I have no worries that I will find my knight in shining armor.  Till then I’m going to enjoy my life to the fullest. 

In addition some women are so baby hunger it’s scary. You may think I’m crazy, but I’ve worked very hard not to have a baby.  Having a baby doesn’t take much effort, but finding the right father for that baby and raising that child takes lots of skills.  I’m not worried about my so-called biological clock.  To be honest I am not hell bent on actually giving birth to my own kids. I’d be just as happy adopting or raising his kids.  There is an endless supply of children needing homes.

Just to recap, I am not anti-marriage or anti-having kids. I look forward to the day that I meet Mr. Right, get married, have kids and live happily ever after. All I’m saying is to enjoy whatever stage of life you are in.  Live every day like it’s your last.