Double Standard

Why is there such a double standard when it comes to dating edict?  Why is ok to be a "Playboy" but if a girl acts the same way she is a slut?  Why is it ok for guys to talk and fantasize about sex, but it's not ok for girls?  Why is ok for guys to make out with several girls, but it's not ok for girls to do the same?  Why is it so shocking to guys that girls also have raging hormones and we also enjoy kissing and the such? This is in no way an invitation to any of you guys out there, I'm just making an observation. I do believe that things have slowly evolved since the Victorian era and girls are getting more outspoken and getting more in on the action.

And by the way Guys, if you were wondering why you haven't been getting any action from us girls lately it might be because you need to shave. I'm not saying we don't like the scruffy look. At times we find it very sexy when we observe you from a far. Movie stars and singers have been trendsetters for ages and make scruffy look sexy, but you need to remember it's just part of there costume. When they go home they take it off before they too get any action from their wives or girlfriends. I'm also not saying that you have to be clean shaven either. Beards and goatees can be very sexy. What I am saying is the sandpaper faces around the beards and goatees isn't very fun to kiss. If you don't get it try rubbing sandpaper on a part of your body that is sensitive and isn't covered with hair.  How does it feel?  If you enjoyed it well then good for you. For us girls we have sensitive skin and for us it's not very pleasant, and it really tears us the skin.  We work very hard to look pretty and have a clear complexion so we avoid anything that might damage our hard work.

Also if you are a big flirt with no follow through this may be another reason why you don't get many dates or have a girlfriend. To my amazement 10+ years later I found out from my friend that lots of guys liked me when I was attending the church singles group back in the day. I had no idea. I thought I was a total leper or something. It's not that I didn't date at all, but I had very few dates and ended up looking for dates elsewhere because no one seem interested. I was in total shock when my friend told me that several guys liked me. How come they never came forward and asked me out?  He said that due to me hanging out with my two guy friends that they thought I was dating one of the two of them. Guys you need to try a little harder and stop assuming things. You know what happens when you assume... I  never dated the two main guys I hung out with. I loved them, they were great friends, but there was never any love interest. The reason we all hung out together was we had so much fun together. Life with them was a laugh a minute. I choose my friends first by who is nice to me, includes me in their group and invites me to hang out with them. In the beginning of friend choosing I'm not very picky, if you smile at me and talk to me I'm your instant friend. I will stay your friend if you make me laugh, don't make fun of me, tease me and continue to be nice to me.  It doesn't matter if we have common interests, as long as we have fun together and there is lots of laughing and talking going on.  And the same goes for dating. I will go on a date with anyone that doesn't totally creep me out and that I know.  I'm not a blind date kind of gal so if you meet me out and about on the street or even in church I probably won't give you my number unless I can get a good recommendation from a friend on you.  I heard the other day some guy saying that girls at church freely give out their numbers, well some may, but I'm not one of them.  And if you want to be my friend on facebook, then you've got to prove yourself as not being judgmental and openminded, because it is there you will be linked to this blog.  I have no problem sharing my life with the world if it will help them out, but for you to know who I am is another story.  If you haven't noticed I don't identify who I am on this blog or where I live. You will only know me if I let you in.  I'm also not a touchy feely person so if you are all over me, then you really creep me out.  Even among family members I'm not a huggy person. I do hug and kiss my parents, but that is different. They are mom and dad. I like my space. On the other hand I do hug some people, they are always the iniaters. And there are those people who I get a good vibe off of that are my good friends that I am physically close to, but for the most part I like my personal space and I feel very uncomfortable if you invade it. So if I go out of my way to avoid you it may be because you crossed the line.