No one wakes up saying "God, I hope I don't get swept off my feet today!"

I’m not one to quote movies.  On the other hand I’m always interested in great discussions especially with people that will help me see things in a new light and assist me in looking outside the box.  Hitch is one of those Movies that really got me thinking and looking outside the box.  Below is a long quote from Hitch that has many good points. The parts in parentheses and in italics are my two cents.

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~ Basic Principles - no woman wakes up saying "God, I hope I don't get swept off my feet today!" Now, she might say "This is a really bad time for me," or something like "I just need some space," or my personal favorite "I'm really into my career right now."

(The line that I have most recently heard is, “I’m still recovering from a broken heart.” This is a tricky one because you don’t want to be the rebound relationship, on the other hand she/he may just not know you well enough and is going to milk that line for all it’s worth. I can give the very same line, but that line is just as legit as I’m just really busy with work and stuff.)

You believe that? Neither does she. You know why? 'Cause she's lying to you, that's why. You understand me? Lying! It's not a bad time for her. She doesn't need any space. And she may be into her career, but what she's really saying is "Uh, get away from me now," or possibly "Try harder, stupid," ……Of course she's going to lie to you! She's a nice person! She doesn't want to hurt your feelings! What else she going to say? She doesn't even know you yet...

(Did you catch that, she doesn’t even know you. I blogged about this last week. For, you it may be love at first sight, but for me I need some more time. Give me a chance to get to know you. I think guys use these lines for the same reason, they just don’t know me well enough to really know if they are interested in me so to play it safe they give me a line. Click her to read that blog post.)

Luckily, the fact is that just like the rest of us, even a beautiful woman doesn't know what she wants until she sees it, and that's where I come in. My job is to open her eyes. Basic Principles - no matter what, no matter when, no matter who... any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet; he just needs the right broom.~

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I think the same goes for Men. I’m pretty sure my dream guy doesn’t know right now that I’m his dream girl. It won’t be till he sees me and has spent time with me that he’ll finally figure it out.  So, all I need to do be at the right place at the right time and everything will fall into place.  When I’m in his arms the light bulb will go on and he’ll finally realize that I am exactly what he has always dreamed of.  It may take some time for him to realize this or for me to realize he is my dream guy.

Sometimes we have instant connections with people and other times those connections build over time. I think it all depends on what we have going on in our lives. When I’m preoccupied with work, money, sick friends, etc I may not feel any connection with someone due to I’m on autopilot. I’m physically there but my mind is elsewhere.  Thus it may take several encounters or dates for us to make a connection. I have seen this with people I have dated and friends I have.  Some friends I have had for years, but it’s been a superficial relationship. It wasn’t till someone said something that we created this connection and our friendship blossomed and become deeper then just associates.  My blog has really helped me connect with people on a different level.  It amazes me how similar many of our lives are especially since from the outside everyone appears so different. The same has also happened with people I have dated. They seem nice enough so I go out with them, but I feel absolutely no connection. Then several dates later we finally find some common ground and a connection forms. If I had just written them off after the first date we wouldn’t have realized how amazing each other is.