Confirmation received he really is an alcoholic

Sometimes you wonder if you were imagining thing, over reaching, or just not seeing things. And then something happens and it validates what you thought was true all along.  That is what happened today.  Now that my ex-husband and I are divorced and a little time has past we’ve gone back to being really good friends. So much so that his current girlfriend got me my job.  As much as they seemed like a great match, apparently not is all well in paradise.  We’ve become good friends and she was in desperate need to talk to someone so she came to me.  This past Sunday her good friend died of alcohol poisoning.  In other words she drank herself to death. It’s a really sad story. She was so young, has a daughter who’s in her early 30’s and a new grandchild. She said they got together last year and she looked great, it didn’t appear she was ill at all.  And now here she is dead. 

She’s really concerned about my ex-husband as his drinking has gotten out of control. She knows that I left him due to his drinking so that’s why she came to me. She knows we’re still really good friends and she’s really worried about his health.  It’s so nice to be confirmed in my beliefs that he really is a working alcoholic. He’s not a social drinker. She drinks so for her it’s not all or nothing, she’ll be happy if he only drank on the weekends and or special occasions and in moderation. He’s even sneaking it around her. She said he goes through a 1.75 liter jug in two days.

I feel awful for her.  I wish I could do something.  She said it’s to the point if he doesn’t start drinking in moderation she’s going to break up with him. She’s tired of being with someone wasted. She also had me promise not to say anything to him.  The only thing I can do is pray for me that he can see the light. See what he’s doing. As we both know that with alcoholics they are the only one that can make the change. It has to come from with in. 

It’s sad to think that the last boyfriend I had was an alcoholic, my last ex was a porn addict, and this ex was also an alcoholic. The only reason the relationships ended was I wasn’t willing to live with an addict. Now I need to make sure to not get involved with another addict.  Well, it’s a sad case, but it’s also good to know that it wasn’t my imagination.